Some people were lucky enough to be taught by their caretakers how to love themselves in their early years. But to some, they were built to take responsibility for mistakes made by others. Even if it was simply too hard for them to cope with--those things they'd encountered probably nothing one could have imagined should happen to anyone--still what expected out of them was, how they should have known better. Or worst, act like nothing ever happened. The latter would instantly blame themselves should anything collapsed.
Some people love themselves too much, they're not capable to love others. They are fully self-absorbed they are blinded, they see only their needs, hence projecting it to others. They don't actually see the needs of others. They feel like they're doing it for others but the truth is they were only doing it for the importance of themselves. They are unfulfilled. They can never share their love with others. They are always in hunger.
Some people are wise enough to comfort others because countered with the unfulfilled they are living a fulfilled life. They know how to take care of themselves. They have love overflowing, ergo it is only natural to share it with others.
